1. What techniques and resources can I use to help me remember that it is easier to be outside looking in than in the role of therapist?

2. Dr. Baird learned this exercise during a supervision workshop presented by Jesse Geller. It involves listening several times to a brief recorded portion of a therapy session. The first time through, simply listen with no specific instructions. Then play the recording and listen again, but this time focus intently on the words the participants use as they interact. Next, listen a third time, but this time focus on receiving not the words but the affect—the emotional messages and experiences of the participants. What do you experience as you receive with your attention focused on different elements of the interaction? Most people report that they get something different out of the interaction each time through. Moreover, in the third listening, in which the focus is on affect rather than words, people usually believe they begin to understand the client in a way different from before.